There is nothing better than a satisfying sex life, one filled with mutual satisfaction, variety and spontaneity. But what should you do when your significant other lacks skills in the oral department and the few times they make the trip “downtown” only leaves you checking off your to-do lists for the weekend while staring up at the ceiling? Should you just suffer through inserting the appropriate grunts and moans because of some misguided notion of love or awkwardness? Are you destined to remain unsatisfied?
Fear not, here are a few tips to help get your partner’s pussy licking up to scratch:
Talk to your partner
I have always said that have no sex is better than having bad sex, so I suggest you and your partner have a talk about what is and isn’t happening south of the border. It probably won’t be the most comfortable conversation of your relationship but a necessary one nonetheless. It is important that you’re direct with them but NOT accusatory it isn’t “You’re really bad at going down on me,” but more like “Next time you go down on me you should try XYZ.” That way your partner doesn’t feel like they are a complete failure (although they kind of are) and that you have been faking it the whole time (though you have been). You may just find out during your conversation that sexual compatibility is the cause of the problem; maybe they are just not into oral or maybe they just aren’t sure what to do so they have been just visiting and browsing the area trying to figure out what gets a rise out of you. You never know and you won’t know until you talk to them and figure out what their thoughts are. I mean hey, what’s the worst that can happen? If talking doesn’t work or your partner is a visual learner….
Draw a diagram or let them watch you
Some people honestly just learn from visuals and, so if your partner seems to be that type then maybe try drawing them a picture highlighting the areas you would like them to pay attention to on their next visit. If your drawing skills are not stellar (stick figures are your greatest masterpiece) then maybe you might just want to demonstrate on yourself the areas that really turn you on. No words needed for this one. Let them watch you pleasure yourself and hear what it sounds like when your spot has really been hit! If you are squeamish, shy, or they are just not getting it….
Do it yourself
I get it, some people are just not comfortable talking about sex, even with their significant other. If that is you then you might consider this as your best bet. Personal Play Time (PPT) is something that, I believe, everyone should should invest in. Not only does it help you learn what you like, but it also helps you burn off pent-up sexual frustration. There is no need for awkward silences or faked orgasms you just turn on, get off and you’re done! Satisfaction is always guaranteed and you didn’t even have to dress up. Win-win. Any partner who truly cares about you will want to make sure that your satisfied during sex as well and will be more than happy to help you achieve the BIG O! If they don’t, then maybe it is time for you to move on to greener pastures.
